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לפוסט הזה יש 7 תגובות

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   Safiyyah דצמבר 28, 2021 הגב

   Shalom/Salaam Dear: Bless your heart, Sister! I admire and respect you and all parents who have this challenge. To your question, “when,” I would suggest when they ask, or when they witness an injustice or an oppression., not to let it go by, but to “process” it, otherwise, they will process it for themselves, and developmentally, they will make age-nonappropriate sense of it, which can be confusing and painful. But also all along I think parents may want to have children learn by parents reading them great books, encouraging them to make friends with all kinds of kids, and for parents to be an example by having diverse friends, and by having friends over to the home from everywhere. From my experience in 1950s America, it was right after WWII, another time, but as Jewish people and especially Jewish children, many of us were terribly afraid of non Jewish people. We became an isolated community, socializing mostly with other Jewish families and our own families. Now that I’m a Muslim in America, I meet all kinds of people from everywhere around the globe, and I love it. I have to tell you a story from our mosque Sunday school where I’m a teacher. One Pakistani young girl was telling me about injustice she was experiencing at school from kids who were bullying her due to her dark skin, calling her “Paki,” etc. I listened and offered support and encouragement, and at the end gave her a big hug. She looked at me through tearful eyes, and said: “White people sure do stink, don’t they?” Laughing, I said, “Yes, they sure do sometimes.” What she didn’t realize because I’m a Muslim who wears a hijab, is that I’m a White person, lol.

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   Eddie Lama דצמבר 28, 2021 הגב

   Umm forat I love your writing I love your message you’re brilliant you’re an amazing woman I wish you well at all your endeavors keep writing never stop

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   Yehuda Scherl דצמבר 28, 2021 הגב

   Dear Sari, you are touching this topic with a very sensitive pen and I agree with every word of what Safiyyah says in her comment
   Born in Israel, living in Sweden and (was) married to a Swede we brought up our three children to be “political animals”. We cannot run away from
   this complex and we have to prepare them to face the realities of life
   with all the challenges it means, to teach them to embrace every human being as such , as equal! Period

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   Günther Rückl דצמבר 28, 2021 הגב

   I am a pediatrician, now retired. In training, at an Ivy League institution, we were taught all sorts of things about children, developmental stages, how to discipline and praise, how children process divorce, etc. etc. I do not remember having been exposed – so straight forward, observing, artfully and loving – to the realities in our stratified world as your children do in your and your partner’s complex world.

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   דפנה December 29, 2021 הגב

   אום פוראת, אני נהנית מאוד לקרוא אותך. חכם, רגיש ומעניין. ראשית האם עדיף לך שאזמין את הספר (אותו אני רוצה לקרוא) דרכך או דרך הוצאות ספרים בארץ? ולגבי חינוך ילדים – אני מאוד רוצה לדבר עם נכדי על נושאים אלו, הבעיה היא שהם לא שןאלים. הם כל כך רגילים למציאות של אי שוויון שהוא אפילו לא מעלה בהם שאלות. זה נראה להם טבעי שאריתראי מנקה את הרחוב, ושאחד בונה בניין ואף אחמד לא גר לידו אלא הולך עם שקית הניילון שלו הביתה, מעבר להררי החושך מבחינתו. מבחינה מגדרית דווקא יש שוויון בבתיהם , אבל על המציאות בישראל הכובשת, הגזענית , המפלה לא מדברים. זה מציק לי כי אני בן אדם מאוד פוליטי.

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   Jane Kvebæk December 29, 2021 הגב

   Children learn by observing, from they are babies – seeing smiling faces/soft voices – sour faces/hard voices – and putting together what they see, hear and experience to their first understanding of life, family and society. I think you choose the right way when you tell your children how “things are” because you will do so with love and wisdom.

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   Sandy Rinaldi December 29, 2021 הגב

   Enslavement is as present as hatred & privilege segregation. Fortunately, as long as there is free will, the will to succeed in goodness will triumph. Once free will is taken, either find a hiding place or face death with courage. We have meaningful work to do with our freedom to choose our own attitudes & hopefully actions. Family & by extension, nations, are built on iron clad free will. Let us celebrate our good fortune with diligence & trust between those of like hearts. With a strong core of those who hunger & enforce personal freedoms, we will create a force for dominance. Even children do not need to have it described. They will recogize what their conscience applauds.
   Sandy Rinaldi, Arkansas, US Army veteran 1971 to 1974
   29 DEC 21 When OK to teach children on oppression 28 dec